<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0" xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:googleplay="http://www.google.com/schemas/play-podcasts/1.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Filling Your Circle]]></title><description><![CDATA[Family. Friends. Fun.]]></description><link>https://www.fillingyourcircle.com</link><image><url>https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!jinX!,w_256,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8ad6bbe7-c1a6-4879-8856-80fc8d14f7bf_600x600.png</url><title>Filling Your Circle</title><link>https://www.fillingyourcircle.com</link></image><generator>Substack</generator><lastBuildDate>Thu, 16 Apr 2026 21:07:53 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/feed" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><copyright><![CDATA[Lucy Brewer]]></copyright><language><![CDATA[en]]></language><webMaster><![CDATA[lucybrewer@substack.com]]></webMaster><itunes:owner><itunes:email><![CDATA[lucybrewer@substack.com]]></itunes:email><itunes:name><![CDATA[Lucy Brewer]]></itunes:name></itunes:owner><itunes:author><![CDATA[Lucy Brewer]]></itunes:author><googleplay:owner><![CDATA[lucybrewer@substack.com]]></googleplay:owner><googleplay:email><![CDATA[lucybrewer@substack.com]]></googleplay:email><googleplay:author><![CDATA[Lucy Brewer]]></googleplay:author><itunes:block><![CDATA[Yes]]></itunes:block><item><title><![CDATA[10 End of Summer Activities with Grandkids]]></title><description><![CDATA[Making the most of late summer]]></description><link>https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/p/10-end-of-summer-activities-with</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/p/10-end-of-summer-activities-with</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Lucy Brewer]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Mon, 18 Aug 2025 19:53:45 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!SpiS!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa782f069-0bc5-4b3e-ad8e-8b1513155e5e_1200x800.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The calendar says summer is winding down, but that doesn't mean the fun has to stop. Those precious weeks before school starts again are wonderful opportunities to connect with your grandkids. No need for elaborate plans or expensive outings. Sometimes the sweetest memories come from the simplest moments shared.</p><p>If you're looking for ways to squeeze every last drop of joy from these warm days, here are ten activities that grandkids absolutely love. These activities aren't about perfection or Instagram-worthy moments. They're about connection, laughter, and the kind of memories that the kids will talk about thirty years later.</p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Filling Your Circle! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div><h2>1. Transform your backyard into picnic central</h2><p>Transform your own backyard into a picnic paradise. Let the kids choose the menu and help put it together (yes, even if they put way too much peanut butter on the sandwiches). Toss in some apple slices, crackers, and juice boxes. The magic isn't in gourmet food; it's in eating cross-legged on a blanket while clouds drift by overhead. Bonus points if you let them eat dessert first.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!SpiS!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa782f069-0bc5-4b3e-ad8e-8b1513155e5e_1200x800.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!SpiS!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa782f069-0bc5-4b3e-ad8e-8b1513155e5e_1200x800.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!SpiS!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa782f069-0bc5-4b3e-ad8e-8b1513155e5e_1200x800.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!SpiS!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa782f069-0bc5-4b3e-ad8e-8b1513155e5e_1200x800.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!SpiS!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa782f069-0bc5-4b3e-ad8e-8b1513155e5e_1200x800.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!SpiS!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa782f069-0bc5-4b3e-ad8e-8b1513155e5e_1200x800.jpeg" width="1200" height="800" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/a782f069-0bc5-4b3e-ad8e-8b1513155e5e_1200x800.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:800,&quot;width&quot;:1200,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:183111,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:false,&quot;topImage&quot;:true,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:&quot;https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/i/171298395?img=https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa782f069-0bc5-4b3e-ad8e-8b1513155e5e_1200x800.jpeg&quot;,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!SpiS!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa782f069-0bc5-4b3e-ad8e-8b1513155e5e_1200x800.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!SpiS!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa782f069-0bc5-4b3e-ad8e-8b1513155e5e_1200x800.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!SpiS!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa782f069-0bc5-4b3e-ad8e-8b1513155e5e_1200x800.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!SpiS!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa782f069-0bc5-4b3e-ad8e-8b1513155e5e_1200x800.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" fetchpriority="high"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Photo credit: Depositphotos monkeybusiness</figcaption></figure></div><h2>2. Sunset neighborhood safari</h2><p>Those late summer evenings when the light turns everything golden are made for walks. Skip the structured nature hunt and just wander. One grandparent I know takes the kids on a Frog Walk in the early evening. This is nothing more than counting frogs, but the kids look forward to it and love it. Your grandson might want to balance on every curb. Your granddaughter might collect exactly seventeen dandelions. Let them lead. Bring bubbles in your pocket for when energy starts to fade, or play "I Spy" with things you spot along the way.</p><h2>3. The great ice cream adventure</h2><p>There's something special about going out specifically for ice cream. Not as part of errands, not after dinner at a restaurant, but a dedicated trip just for frozen treats. Let them order whatever wild combination they want (cotton candy with gummy bears? Why not!) Sit outside if you can, and don't worry about the sticky fingers. That's what napkins are for.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!M57H!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffb32883f-178b-456b-841a-c8a1ecfdcc47_1200x797.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!M57H!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffb32883f-178b-456b-841a-c8a1ecfdcc47_1200x797.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!M57H!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffb32883f-178b-456b-841a-c8a1ecfdcc47_1200x797.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!M57H!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffb32883f-178b-456b-841a-c8a1ecfdcc47_1200x797.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!M57H!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffb32883f-178b-456b-841a-c8a1ecfdcc47_1200x797.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!M57H!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffb32883f-178b-456b-841a-c8a1ecfdcc47_1200x797.jpeg" width="1200" height="797" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/fb32883f-178b-456b-841a-c8a1ecfdcc47_1200x797.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:797,&quot;width&quot;:1200,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:163253,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:&quot;https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/i/171298395?img=https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffb32883f-178b-456b-841a-c8a1ecfdcc47_1200x797.jpeg&quot;,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!M57H!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffb32883f-178b-456b-841a-c8a1ecfdcc47_1200x797.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!M57H!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffb32883f-178b-456b-841a-c8a1ecfdcc47_1200x797.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!M57H!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffb32883f-178b-456b-841a-c8a1ecfdcc47_1200x797.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!M57H!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ffb32883f-178b-456b-841a-c8a1ecfdcc47_1200x797.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" loading="lazy"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Photo credit: Depositphotos Tetiana Kolinko</figcaption></figure></div><h2>4. Splish splash water bash</h2><p>You don't need a pool to have a water party. Run through the sprinkler, have a sponge toss, or set up a car wash for bikes and tricycles. Fill a bucket with water balloons and watch the giggles multiply. Keep towels handy and remember: getting soaked is the whole point. You might find yourself laughing harder than the kids.</p><h2>5. S'mores without the campfire</h2><p>No campfire? No problem. S'mores taste just as good made over a gas grill or even in the oven. The fun is in the assembly line: graham crackers here, chocolate there, marshmallows ready to go. Let each child create their own masterpiece. Warning: You'll need more marshmallows and chocolate than you think. They have a mysterious way of disappearing.</p><h2>6. Collect summer in a jar</h2><p>Take a walk and gather whatever catches their eye. Smooth stones, interesting leaves, a particularly cool stick. Back home, break out the markers, glue, and glitter. Paint those rocks into ladybugs or superheroes. Press leaves between wax paper with an iron and make bookmarks. Create a Summer 2025 jar filled with their treasures. It doesn't have to be museum quality to be meaningful.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1666300120365-429e997ce0b8?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxfHxwYWludGVkJTIwcm9ja3xlbnwwfHx8fDE3NTU1NDY3NDF8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1666300120365-429e997ce0b8?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxfHxwYWludGVkJTIwcm9ja3xlbnwwfHx8fDE3NTU1NDY3NDF8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.1.0&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 424w, 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href="https://unsplash.com">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure></div><h2>7. Become backyard astronomers</h2><p>Wait until the sky is good and dark, then spread out blankets in the yard. Use a constellation app to trace the stars, or skip the tech and dream up your own shapes. Count the satellites gliding by, share the thrill of your first shooting star, or tell them what it was like to see the moon landing. </p><h2>8. Make homemade popsicles</h2><p>Let the grandkids help stir together juice, yogurt, or blended fruit, then pour the mixture into molds. While the pops freeze, spend the afternoon playing outside or reading together. By evening, you&#8217;ll have a cool treat to enjoy on the porch.</p><h2>9. Cinema under the stars</h2><p>Set up a projector with a sheet or portable screen if you want to go all out, or just prop up a laptop or tablet on the patio table. Make some popcorn, grab a pile of blankets, and let the kids pick a movie to watch outside. There's something about being under the stars that makes even movies they've seen a hundred times feel special again.</p><h2>10. The magic of "Your Choice" day</h2><p>Set a few ground rules (staying local, no screens for a couple of hours), then hand over the reins. They might choose three hours at the playground. They might want to bake four dozen cookies and eat half the dough. They might decide everyone needs to wear costumes to the grocery store. Roll with it. Their faces when they realize they're really in charge will be worth whatever chaos ensues.</p><h2>Making it count</h2><p>These final weeks of summer aren't about cramming in every possible activity. They're about being present with these amazing little people who call you Grandma or Grandpa. They won't remember if the picnic blanket had wrinkles or if the s'mores were burned. They'll remember that you were there, laughing at their jokes, listening to their stories, and making them feel like the most important people in the world.</p><p>Because they are.</p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Filling Your Circle! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Our Circle Changed, but It's Still Full]]></title><description><![CDATA["Make new friends but keep the old. Those are silver, these are gold."]]></description><link>https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/p/our-circle-changed-but-its-still</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/p/our-circle-changed-but-its-still</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Lucy Brewer]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 10 Jun 2025 16:16:50 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!qUad!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F6285591b-04be-4bc4-bb62-705564f88961_960x640.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Years ago, when we lived in the metro Atlanta area, David and I would go out with our friends every weekend. We frequently had gatherings in our home, and during college football season, a group was always hanging out in our basement on Saturdays.&nbsp;</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!qUad!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F6285591b-04be-4bc4-bb62-705564f88961_960x640.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!qUad!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F6285591b-04be-4bc4-bb62-705564f88961_960x640.jpeg 424w, 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class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">The FOKers at our daughter&#8217;s wedding, circa 2013.</figcaption></figure></div><p>We hosted an annual pool tournament and Christmas party that grew larger every year as we added the older kids (our rule was you had to be 21). Our large group of friends was known as the FOKers, and we had other smaller groups as well.</p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Filling Your Circle! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div><p> During those years, most of us had high school or college-aged kids, so additional people were added to the invitation list each year. The last Christmas party we hosted before we moved had 50-60 people &#8212; our friends and their adult children with their significant others.&nbsp;</p><p>As our children grew older and their lives changed, so did ours. We all became empty-nesters and soon gained daughters-in-law or sons-in-law.&nbsp;</p><p>And then came the grandchildren. <em>They changed our lives.</em>&nbsp;</p><p>Instead of planning a trip to the newest restaurant in town or a local play, we planned a trip as often as possible to hold an infant, who quickly became a toddler, who, before we knew it, walked right into kindergarten.&nbsp;</p><p>We thought life passed quickly when we were raising our own children, but when it comes to grandchildren, life is slipping by faster than a bullet train. We are acutely aware that we have more years behind us than in front of us, and we try not to miss a minute of the blur whizzing past.&nbsp;</p><p>In 2015, David and I surprised our friends and family by downsizing. We wanted a smaller house and were done with the huge parties. But we didn&#8217;t know exactly where we wanted to end up, so we sold our home and moved into an apartment while we figured out our next step. </p><p>We kicked around the idea of an RV (too much work) or just traveling around the country, living in hotels. But those darn grandchildren kept getting in the way of our master plans. Although at the time, three of our grandchildren lived about three hours away, we found that we couldn&#8217;t stay away for more than a few weeks, which meant that traveling the country for months at a time was out of the question.</p><p>We did have lots of fun in our apartment, though. It was in a mixed-use area, so we could walk to Starbucks and several restaurants and bars. After about a year, we still didn&#8217;t know where we ultimately wanted to settle, but we knew we couldn&#8217;t continue renting. </p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Wj3Q!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd1d6e35c-b2dd-46b0-b356-dc0a448c13a8_2448x3264.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Wj3Q!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd1d6e35c-b2dd-46b0-b356-dc0a448c13a8_2448x3264.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Wj3Q!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd1d6e35c-b2dd-46b0-b356-dc0a448c13a8_2448x3264.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Wj3Q!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd1d6e35c-b2dd-46b0-b356-dc0a448c13a8_2448x3264.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Wj3Q!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd1d6e35c-b2dd-46b0-b356-dc0a448c13a8_2448x3264.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Wj3Q!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd1d6e35c-b2dd-46b0-b356-dc0a448c13a8_2448x3264.jpeg" width="1456" height="1941" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/d1d6e35c-b2dd-46b0-b356-dc0a448c13a8_2448x3264.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:1941,&quot;width&quot;:1456,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:2209510,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:&quot;https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/i/165636251?img=https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd1d6e35c-b2dd-46b0-b356-dc0a448c13a8_2448x3264.jpeg&quot;,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Wj3Q!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd1d6e35c-b2dd-46b0-b356-dc0a448c13a8_2448x3264.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Wj3Q!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd1d6e35c-b2dd-46b0-b356-dc0a448c13a8_2448x3264.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Wj3Q!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd1d6e35c-b2dd-46b0-b356-dc0a448c13a8_2448x3264.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!Wj3Q!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fd1d6e35c-b2dd-46b0-b356-dc0a448c13a8_2448x3264.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" loading="lazy"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption"><em>Our fun apartment had a huge balcony over a pizza joint. We loved it!</em></figcaption></figure></div><p>We bought a small townhouse nearby and continued our fun. We were regulars at 2-3 bars in the area and meeting friends for dinner several nights a week. My friend Donna dubbed us &#8220;Empty Nesters Gone Wild.&#8221;&nbsp;</p><p>And then came 2020. Covid. The pandemic. And life changed.&nbsp;</p><p>Our son and daughter-in-law, who lived near us, moved several hours away to Statesboro with their infant son. So we had no grandchildren living in the same city.</p><p>The other grandparents who lived close to our grandchildren in Augusta could do the driveway drop-by. They saw the kids from a driveway distance a few times a week. We couldn&#8217;t do this often because it would be too hard on us and the kids. We got to see our friends from a distance, but we quickly realized that it was those babies who were weighing on our hearts. We Facetimed with all of them, but it was not the same as a personal connection.&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><p>And so, near the end of 2020, we had figured out our next step. We upended our lives and moved to Augusta. David was born and raised in the Atlanta area, and I had lived there for 35 years, all my adult life. Leaving was a big deal. But we moved one mile from our Augusta grandchildren and a little under two hours from our Statesboro one.</p><p>It was the right thing to do, but the move produced a new conundrum: we deeply missed our circle of friends.&nbsp;</p><p>Initially, we believed we would travel back and forth to Atlanta to visit with our friends every few weeks or so. We got over that real fast. Atlanta traffic is a bear. In reality, we only saw our friends every few months.&nbsp;</p><p>Recently, our son and daughter-in-law moved their family back to Atlanta, so now we are traveling back and forth every few weeks. However, we don&#8217;t see our friends often because we are there primarily to spend time with our family.&nbsp;</p><p>Last week, though, we traded houses. Our son, daughter-in-law, and their family went on vacation, and we stayed at their home for almost a week. We had dinner with old friends every night, met friends for lunch, hiked, golfed, and just spent time together. It was wonderful.&nbsp;</p><p>A couple of weeks before that, we spent the weekend at a lake with my oldest and dearest friend and her husband, hanging out with some other friends we have known for over twenty years.&nbsp;</p><p>And just a few weeks before that, I was at a conference and had an opportunity to spend the evening with one of my best friends from high school.&nbsp;</p><p>These things were not happenstance. <em>They were intentional.</em> Friendships wane over time, often due to a lack of connection and proximity. If you want a friendship to withstand time and distance, you have to be intentional and not only take advantage of opportunities to see each other but also CREATE those opportunities as often as you can.&nbsp;</p><p>During the pandemic, we started having a weekly Zoom cocktail hour with one couple. After we moved, we continued this get-together. Not every week, but maybe once every couple of months, we will get on Zoom and catch up with each other&#8217;s lives.&nbsp;This connection with them, even briefly and only ever so often, is important to us.</p><p>Our circle has changed. The empty-nester phase is all about catching up on the social life with friends that you miss while raising children. That gives way to the grandparent phase, which is all about making memories with these little people. </p><p>Life is different. Our circle has changed, but our cup is still full. </p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Filling Your Circle! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Mother's Day is not for grandmothers]]></title><description><![CDATA[It's for the moms in the trenches]]></description><link>https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/p/mothers-day-is-not-for-grandmothers</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/p/mothers-day-is-not-for-grandmothers</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Lucy Brewer]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2025 13:41:12 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L6NA!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fccc72bcb-7066-49f3-8586-8bb7fbbc6814_2620x2052.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;ve been a mother for 36 years. That means there have been at least thirty Mother&#8217;s Days that were all about me. </p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L6NA!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fccc72bcb-7066-49f3-8586-8bb7fbbc6814_2620x2052.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L6NA!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fccc72bcb-7066-49f3-8586-8bb7fbbc6814_2620x2052.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L6NA!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fccc72bcb-7066-49f3-8586-8bb7fbbc6814_2620x2052.jpeg 848w, 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class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">My three, circa 1998 or 1999. </figcaption></figure></div><p>That&#8217;s enough. </p><p>I recently saw a video on social media of a young mom talking about all the ways in which her mother-in-law made Mother&#8217;s Day all about herself. This young mom was understandably frustrated and tired (because she&#8217;s the one doing the active mothering these days) and wondered when the day would be HER day, not just her MIL&#8217;s day. </p><p>What was shocking to me was the number of comments from grandmothers who were bashing this young woman, calling her selfish and disrespectful to her MIL. I don&#8217;t necessarily disagree with the last part, since she did put this video online, so obviously her MIL could see it &#8212; but I 100% disagree that she was being selfish. </p><p>Why do so many grandmothers believe the day should still be about them? You&#8217;ve had your time. These days, moms are tired. The world moves at a head-spinning pace, and these young women are juggling so much. That was true when I was a young mom, too. I remember those days of being in the thick of it. It was exhausting. </p><p>And it was every single day. Shampoo, rinse, repeat. </p><p>I watch my daughter and daughter-in-law now with so much awe and respect. They are sweeter and more patient than I ever was and run their homes like well-oiled machines. They are organized and efficient, and they make so many little moments special and fun for their kids. </p><p>They are the ones who deserve to be celebrated. </p><p>Maybe I didn&#8217;t always advocate for my girls to be celebrated. It&#8217;s been 10 years since my first grandchild was born, and I honestly don&#8217;t remember. It was probably a bit of a mental transition. But I hope that by the time my daughter-in-law had her first child five years later, I understood that the day needed to be about them. </p><p>I will always cherish the sweet drawings and handmade cards my children brought home when they were small. The handwritten notes as they got older. Home-cooked dinners once they were adults and before they had children. It&#8217;s an honor to be acknowledged by your adult children, and I never take that for granted. </p><p>But once they have their own children, the day is no longer for me. And I&#8217;m ok with that. </p><p></p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Filling Your Circle! 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Some of these customs might surprise you if you&#8217;re not from around here. </em></p><p><em>But, if you grew up in the South, you know there are certain unspoken rules that everyone seems to understand. Here are ten of those unwritten laws that every Southerner knows by heart.</em></p><h2><strong>1. Bring Food (and Plenty of It)</strong></h2><p>In the South, food isn&#8217;t just sustenance &#8212; it&#8217;s how we show love. Whether it's a potluck, a neighbor's house, or someone dealing with loss, showing up empty-handed is simply not done. </p><p>And bringing "just enough" is equally frowned upon. That casserole dish better be full enough to feed an army because sharing food isn't just about nutrition &#8212; it's about showing you care.</p><p>Don&#8217;t forget to tape your name on the bottom of the dish because it <em>will</em> end up in someone else&#8217;s kitchen otherwise.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!-PNr!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb10b1007-f7b1-4c05-97a6-fcceb2817462_4000x6000.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!-PNr!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb10b1007-f7b1-4c05-97a6-fcceb2817462_4000x6000.jpeg 424w, 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stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Image credit: Southern Food and Fun.</figcaption></figure></div><h2><strong>2. Waving Is Mandatory</strong></h2><p>In the South, acknowledging others isn't optional. Whether you're driving down a country road or walking through your neighborhood, that little finger lift from the steering wheel or friendly wave is as natural as breathing. Don't know the person? Doesn't matter. Wave anyway.</p><h2><strong>3. College Football Is Religion</strong></h2><p>Saturdays in the South don&#8217;t belong to the weekend &#8212; they belong to college football. Whether you root for the Dawgs, the Vols, or the Crimson Tide, loyalty to your team is sacred. </p><p>Business meetings get scheduled around kickoff times, weddings are planned in the off-season, and family allegiances to teams run generations deep.</p><p>Game day traditions, tailgating, and heated rivalries are practically in our DNA. But a word of advice: don&#8217;t talk trash about someone&#8217;s team unless you&#8217;re ready for a spirited (and possibly lifelong) debate.</p><h2><strong>4. Don't Show Up Without Warning</strong></h2><p>Pop-in visits might work in sitcoms, but they're considered poor form in the South. Everyone needs time to straighten up, put on proper clothes, and maybe whip up a quick batch of something fresh. A simple heads-up call or text is all it takes.</p><h2><strong>5. Never Rush Through a Goodbye</strong></h2><p>Southern goodbyes are a process, not an event. They start at the door, continue to the porch, migrate to the driveway, and often include at least three "Well, I better get going" statements and lots of final hugs before anyone actually leaves. </p><p>Trying to rush this process can feel abrupt&#8212;or even downright rude. My friend Ray used to say, &#8220;Is this going to be a one-beer goodbye or a six-pack?&#8221;</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1560184897-ae75f418493e?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxN3x8ZnJvbnQlMjBwb3JjaCUyMGdvb2RieWV8ZW58MHx8fHwxNzMxOTczMzMzfDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1560184897-ae75f418493e?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxN3x8ZnJvbnQlMjBwb3JjaCUyMGdvb2RieWV8ZW58MHx8fHwxNzMxOTczMzMzfDA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 424w, 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Don't Underestimate a Grandma's Cooking Advice</strong></h1><p>When a Southern grandmother tells you her secret to perfect biscuits or shares her cornbread recipe, you listen. These aren't just cooking tips. They're family heirlooms passed down through generations. </p><p>Trust Granny&#8212;she&#8217;s been doing this longer than you&#8217;ve been alive. And yes, she can tell if you used store-bought pie crust.</p><h2><strong>7. Always Ask About Family</strong></h2><p>Conversations aren't complete without inquiring about someone's people. "How's your mom-n-em?" may sound strange to you, but to a Southerner, it&#8217;s the conversational opening needed to kick off the latest family stories. </p><p>Asking after someone&#8217;s family indicates a genuine interest in the extended network of family and friends that makes up Southern community life.</p><h2><strong>8. &#8220;Fixing To&#8221; Means It'll Happen Eventually</strong></h2><p>This common phrase exists in its own time zone. When someone says they're "fixing to" do something, it could mean in the next five minutes or next week. </p><p>It&#8217;s not procrastination; it&#8217;s just a more relaxed approach to timing. 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Never Touch a Lady's Hair</strong></h2><p>Southern women take pride in their hair, whether perfectly styled for Sunday service or casually elegant for a grocery store run. Touching it without permission isn't just rude; it's an invasion of personal space that might get your hand swatted.</p><h2><strong>10. It's "Y'all," Not "You Guys"</strong></h2><p>The word "y'all" represents more than just a regional dialect choice. It's a simple, elegant solution to a problem the English language never quite figured out: how to address a group of people both casually and respectfully. </p><p>While "you guys" excludes half the population and "you all" sounds stuffy, "y'all" welcomes everyone to the conversation with warmth and familiarity. </p><p>It's so versatile that it can even be expanded to "all y'all" when addressing a large group. The word carries the hospitality of the South in its very pronunciation, and once you start using it, you'll understand why Southerners will never let it go.</p><p><em>These unwritten rules might seem subtle to outsiders, but they're the threads that weave together the fabric of Southern society. They're about respect, community, and tradition, values that never go out of style, no matter how much the South changes with time.</em></p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Filling Your Circle! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[From spoiling to supporting: Finding the grandparent balance]]></title><description><![CDATA[Grandparents are known for spoiling their grandkids by showering them with gifts, bending the rules and always saying yes.]]></description><link>https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/p/from-spoiling-to-supporting-finding</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/p/from-spoiling-to-supporting-finding</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Lucy Brewer]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 06 Oct 2024 22:00:17 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1657664043009-c4975cb4eed3?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxMDJ8fGdyYW5kcGFyZW50c3xlbnwwfHx8fDE3MjgyNTE1MDN8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Grandparents are known for spoiling their grandkids by showering them with gifts, bending the rules and always saying yes. While most of us relish being fun grandparents, it's easy to cross the line from occasional indulgence to over-the-top spoiling. So how do we find that sweet spot &#8212; the balance between showing love to our grandchildren and supporting them in a way that benefits their growth and doesn&#8217;t leave them constantly expecting gifts?</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1657664043009-c4975cb4eed3?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxMDJ8fGdyYW5kcGFyZW50c3xlbnwwfHx8fDE3MjgyNTE1MDN8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1657664043009-c4975cb4eed3?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHwxMDJ8fGdyYW5kcGFyZW50c3xlbnwwfHx8fDE3MjgyNTE1MDN8MA&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 424w, 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It's often a way to express love in a tangible form, to make up for lost time or perhaps to relive a bit of their childhood through their grandchildren. And there&#8217;s joy in creating happy memories: the surprise gift, the special outing or the shared laughter over a silly game. These moments of healthy spoiling strengthen bonds and create a unique connection between generations.</p><p>The desire to spoil grandchildren often stems from pure love and excitement. Many grandparents feel a renewed sense of purpose and joy when grandchildren enter their lives. They may have more free time and disposable income than they did as parents, allowing them to indulge their grandkids in ways they couldn't with their own children. </p><p>There's also a sense of freedom that comes with grandparenthood &#8212; the primary responsibility of raising the child falls to the parents, allowing grandparents to focus on fun and connection without as much of the day-to-day stress.</p><h2>When spoiling goes too far</h2><p>But there's a flip side. Excessive spoiling can undermine parental authority, contribute to behavioral issues and foster a sense of entitlement in children, not to mention resentment from their parents. Constantly saying yes, indulging children with gifts and bending the rules can send mixed messages and create confusion. While a grandparent's heart might be in the right place, the long-term consequences can strain family relationships and hinder a child's development.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1612355524120-462e49e4ffe6?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw2fHx0b3lzfGVufDB8fHx8MTcyODI1MTYwNHww&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1612355524120-462e49e4ffe6?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw2fHx0b3lzfGVufDB8fHx8MTcyODI1MTYwNHww&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 424w, 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Children may expect constant gifts or special treatment, leading to disappointment or tantrums when these expectations aren't met. They might struggle with delayed gratification or fail to develop essential skills like saving money or working toward goals. In some cases, excessive spoiling can even create tension between the child and their parents, as the child may view their parents as less fun or generous in comparison.</p><h2>Finding the balance: Supporting, not just spoiling</h2><p>One effective way to provide meaningful support is to actively engage in your grandchild's world. This doesn't mean you need to become an expert in everything they love, but showing genuine interest goes a long way. </p><p>If they're passionate about reading, you might start a small book club, sharing thoughts on stories you've both enjoyed. For the sports enthusiast, offer to play catch in the backyard or attend their games when possible. These shared experiences not only support their interests but also create lasting memories.</p><p>Consider the unique perspective you bring as a grandparent. You have a lifetime of experiences to draw from, offering insights and stories that can both entertain and educate. Share family history, teach them a skill from your younger days or offer a listening ear when they need to talk. Your role as a grandparent allows you to provide a different kind of support than parents &#8212; often with less pressure and more patience.</p><p>Remember that consistency is key. Show up for the big moments like recitals and graduations, but also be there for the everyday stuff. Regular phone calls, Facetime, a surprise visit to their school lunch, or a standing weekend activity can provide a sense of stability and unconditional support. These gestures, though simple, communicate your love and commitment more powerfully than any material gift.</p><p>Focusing on involvement, shared experiences, and consistent presence will create a supportive relationship that goes far beyond spoiling. This balanced approach to grandparenting allows you to play a unique and valuable role in your grandchild's life.</p><h2>Communication is key</h2><p>Regular check-ins with the parents can help prevent misunderstandings and ensure everyone is on the same page. This might involve discussions about gift-giving limits, discipline approaches or how to handle special occasions. By maintaining open lines of communication, you can create a united front that benefits the child and strengthens family relationships.</p><p>Maintaining open communication with parents is vital. Discuss expectations and boundaries, respect their parenting styles and work collaboratively to ensure the well-being of your grandchildren. Remember, you're all on the same team.</p><h2>Different types of support</h2><p>Support comes in many forms. Offer practical help by babysitting, helping with schoolwork or providing transportation. Provide emotional support to your grandchildren by actively listening, offering encouragement and creating a safe space for them to share their thoughts and feelings. If you can, financial support for education or extracurricular activities can also be a valuable contribution.</p><p>&#8203;&#8203;Consider offering your time and experience to teach life skills. This could range from cooking and gardening to basic home repairs or financial literacy. These practical skills are invaluable gifts that will serve your grandchildren well.</p><h2>Navigating the digital age</h2><p>In today's world, communicating with your grandchildren often means bridging generational technological gaps. While you don't need to become a tech expert, showing interest in their digital world can open up new avenues for connection. </p><p>Learn about their favorite apps or games, or ask them to teach you how to use certain features on your phone. This not only helps you stay connected but also gives them a chance to be the expert and share their knowledge with you.</p><p>At the same time, you can offer a valuable counterpoint to the digital world. Introduce them to offline activities and hobbies that you enjoyed at their age. This balance can help them develop a well-rounded set of interests and skills.</p><h2>Adapting to different ages and stages</h2><p>As grandchildren grow, the nature of your support will need to evolve. What works for a toddler won't necessarily be appropriate for a teenager. Stay flexible and open to changing your approach as your grandchildren mature. </p><p>For older grandchildren, your role might shift towards being a trusted confidant or mentor, offering guidance on life decisions or career paths.</p><h2>A legacy of love</h2><p>Ultimately, the most precious gift we can give our grandchildren is not a mountain of toys but a strong, loving relationship that will last a lifetime. Focus on building that foundation, and you'll be giving them something truly valuable. 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The key is to remain flexible, communicate openly and always act from a place of love. By building solid relationships and providing meaningful support, you can create a positive and lasting impact in your grandchildren's lives. </p><p>This balanced approach to grandparenting not only enriches your grandchildren's lives and those of their parents but also brings immense joy and fulfillment to your own life.</p>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Southern Speak: Where Every Phrase Tells a Story]]></title><description><![CDATA[Imagine yourself on a porch swing, sweet tea in hand, as the scent of honeysuckle drifts by on a gentle breeze.]]></description><link>https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/p/southern-speak-where-every-phrase</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/p/southern-speak-where-every-phrase</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Lucy Brewer]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 19 Sep 2024 17:17:29 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1657049017225-8654da062e3b?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw4OXx8cm9ja2luZyUyMGNoYWlyfGVufDB8fHx8MTcyNjc2NDc4Mnww&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>Imagine yourself on a porch swing, sweet tea in hand, as the scent of honeysuckle drifts by on a gentle breeze. A neighbor strolls up, and you greet them with a warm, "Evenin'! How's your mama and 'em?" This simple exchange opens a window into the colorful world of Southern expressions.</em></p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1657049017225-8654da062e3b?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw4OXx8cm9ja2luZyUyMGNoYWlyfGVufDB8fHx8MTcyNjc2NDc4Mnww&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://images.unsplash.com/photo-1657049017225-8654da062e3b?crop=entropy&amp;cs=tinysrgb&amp;fit=max&amp;fm=jpg&amp;ixid=M3wzMDAzMzh8MHwxfHNlYXJjaHw4OXx8cm9ja2luZyUyMGNoYWlyfGVufDB8fHx8MTcyNjc2NDc4Mnww&amp;ixlib=rb-4.0.3&amp;q=80&amp;w=1080 424w, 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We open our arms wide and invite you right into our lives. "Hey, y'all," is our way of saying everyone's welcome, whether you're kin or not. And when we tell you to "sit a spell," we mean for you to pull up a chair and let's chat 'til the cows come home.&nbsp;</p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.fillingyourcircle.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Filling Your Circle! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div><p>"Bless your heart" is a phrase with more meanings than a chameleon has colors. It could be sympathy, congratulations, or a polite way of saying, "Lord, what a mess you've made." And when it's tacked onto something like, "Her elevator doesn't go all the way to the top, bless her heart," well, you'll have to read between the lines on that one. </p><h2>Always fixin' to do something</h2><p>We have our way of talking about plans. "Fixin' to" do something could mean in five minutes or next week. It's a fluid concept, much like our view of time itself. And when we say we'll do something "as long as the good Lord's willing and the creek don't rise," that's our way of committing to a plan while leaving room for unforeseen circumstances. </p><h2>Food: The heart of Southern culture</h2><p>Expressions about food are baked into our everyday language. After a satisfying meal, you might hear someone declare they're "fuller than a tick on a big dog." A dish that hits the spot could be described as "good enough to eat with your fingers" or "finger-lickin' good." But we're not above poking fun at our own cravings, especially when our eyes are bigger than our wallets. 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If someone's a few watts short of a light bulb, you might hear they "ain't the sharpest tool in the shed" or they're "a few fries short of a Happy Meal." For the especially dim, we don't mince words: "He doesn't know his a** from a hole in the ground."</p><p>Got someone hanging around who's no help at all? They're "about as useful as a screen door on a submarine." We've got sayings for all types &#8212; from those where "the lights are on, but nobody's home" to folks so skinny "they have to run around in the shower to get wet."</p><p>Southerners have a knack for colorful critiques. Bad-fitting clothes? We say it "fits like socks on a rooster." Stuck-up folks? Their "nose is so high, they'd drown in a rainstorm." And for the quarrelsome types? They "could start an argument in an empty house."</p><p>We've even got zingers for the self-pitying: "If you're gonna have a pity party, don't invite me." And if someone's jumped from the frying pan into the fire, we'll tell 'em straight: "You've just traded the devil for the witch."</p><h2>Weather wonders and nature's quirks</h2><p>Our unpredictable weather has given us plenty to talk about. When it's "hotter than a firecracker," you know it's time to find some shade. If someone's "madder than a wet hen," best to steer clear till they cool down. Hear "it's comin' up a cloud"? Better grab your umbrella, 'cause rain's on the way. And when folks say, "It's fairin' off," you can count on those clouds breaking up soon.</p><p>In the South, we don't just talk about the weather; we paint it with words. Rain falling while the sun shines? That's "the devil beatin' his wife." Our turns of phrase don't stop at meteorology, though. Something impossibly slick becomes "slicker than snot on a doorknob," while a person swamped with tasks is "busier than a one-legged cat in a sandbox." These colorful expressions bring a slice of Southern charm to everyday life.</p><h2>Family ties and kinfolk</h2><p>Family is everything to Southerners. Here, "blood is thicker than water," and kinfolk cling together like moss on a Mississippi stone. We've got "kissin' cousins" who might as well be siblings and friends so close they're "thick as thieves."</p><p>If you let too much time pass without visiting your mama, say "a month of Sundays," and you'll be reminded right quick that you're forgetting your raising. And don't be surprised if Grandma asks you to "Gimme some sugar!" when she's angling for a kiss. 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Sometimes, you've got to tell someone, "Don't let the screen door hit you on the a** on the way out." And when folks get too demanding, we just might remind them that "people in hell want ice water, but that don't mean they get it."</p><h2>Pearls of Southern wisdom</h2><p>Our sayings often carry simple wisdom for life's ups and downs. When someone's worrying needlessly, we remind them, "Don't go borrowing trouble." If a situation is uncertain, there's comfort in knowing that "it'll all come out in the wash."</p><p>And let's not forget about those who seem completely clueless: We might say they're like "a lost ball in high weeds."&nbsp;</p><p>When faced with a tough choice, someone might say, "Well, whatever cranks your tractor." And if something's a sure bet, we'll declare, "That dog'll hunt!" Conversely, if something is unlikely to succeed, you might say, "That dog won't hunt."</p><p>If you're trying to convince someone who already agrees with you, they might tell you that you're "preachin' to the choir." And "I reckon" is a Southern staple that flavors our conversations. Whether pondering, guessing, or sharing an opinion, these two words do the heavy lifting. It's our verbal Swiss Army knife, ready for any situation.</p><p>To make a point, start with "I'll tell you what," which sometimes leads to telling nothing at all. </p><p>When something's worthless, we'll say it&#8217;s not worth a "hill of beans." And if someone's about to throw in the towel, we'll remind them that "can't never could." 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Take those high-and-mighty types: They&#8217;re either "too big for their britches" or think "the sun comes up just to hear them crow."</p><p>We've got choice words for the nasty sorts, who might be "meaner than a two-headed snake." But we're just as quick to call out the lazy bones who "ain't hit a lick at a snake in years." And if someone's mad as a hornet? Well, they might be "pitching a hissy fit." If they're even angrier than that, it's a full-blown "conniption fit!"</p><p>Ever feel like you're being "pecked to death by a hundred chickens?" That's Southern speak for being overwhelmed. And if you know someone who fusses over every little thing, they just might "worry the spots off a ladybug." It's not all about stress, though. </p><p>We're "tickled as a speckled pup&#8221; when something delights us. But watch out for those nail-biting moments. That's when you'll catch someone looking "as nervous as a long-tailed cat in a room full of rockin' chairs."</p><p>We celebrate success, too, and folks doing well are "livin' in high cotton." But make some poor choices, and you might hear you've "driven your ducks to a bad pond o' water."</p><p>And let's not forget our more... spirited neighbors. After a night on the town, they might end up "drunker than Cooter Brown" or "about three sheets to the wind."</p><h2><strong>Well, butter my biscuit! Southern expressions for every surprise and situation</strong></h2><p>Down South, we've got more ways to express surprise than a cat's got lives. Catch us off guard, and you might hear, "Well, butter my backside and call me a biscuit!" For milder shocks, there's the classic "Well, I declare!" or its cousin, "Well, I s'wanee!" And when we're truly flabbergasted? "Heavens to Betsy!" is sure to follow.</p><p>Try pulling the wool over our eyes, and we'll set you straight: "I was born at night, but not last night!" Misbehaving younguns might hear Mama warn, "Quit being ugly," or the ominous, "We're about to have a Come to Jesus meetin'." Push it too far, and you may hear, "I'll knock you into the middle of next week!"</p><p>Southerners have mastered polite social tactics. Need to end a call with a chatterbox? Just say, "Well, let me let you go." It's a gentle hint that it's time to wrap up. And here's a quirk of Southern speech: instead of asking for a ride, you might hear someone say "carry me to" their destination.</p><p>When patience runs thin, the frustrated may say, "I'm gonna yank her baldheaded!" And if someone's "piddlin'&#8220; around when there's work to be done, we'll ask them to get a move on because we're "plumb tired" of their dawdling.</p><p>Oh, and if you're running your mouth a bit too much? Don't be surprised if someone tells you to "Hush your mouth!" We may be known for our hospitality, but we have limits.</p><h2><strong>Fixin' to wrap it up: The heart of Southern speak</strong></h2><p>These sayings are more than just colorful phrases&#8212;they're the heart of Southern conversation, spicing up our chats with homespun wisdom and a touch of wit. Passed down through generations, they're as treasured as family heirlooms and just as useful in daily life. Like well-worn recipes, these expressions capture the essence of our culture, adding flavor to our words and warmth to our interactions.</p><p>Next time you find yourself deep in Southern speak, whether you're "madder than a wet hen" or "happy as a pig in mud," take a moment to appreciate the richness. </p><p>And remember, whether you're from around these parts or just passing through, our  front porch is always open. 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